My Life in Ruins
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Actors: Dreyfuss Richard,Georgoulis Alexis,McGowan Alistair,Williams Harland,Ogilvy Ian,Palermo Brian,Dauplaise Jareb,Gleeson Simon,Comedy,
I think Aspergers is ruining my life?
I have aspergers syndrome as well as social phobia and i have really bad social skills. whenever i talk to someone they end up hating me even my brother and my mum said to him ’she has aspergers’ and he said ‘duh’ so it must be really obvious. And i find it difficult to make friends. I dont know why im telling Y!A community i guess im just frustrated! Help me!
How will i cope when i get a boyfriend?
Hmm, well I’m someone who may or may not have this condition to a degree. There’s no real need to diagnose me, though I have looked into it extensively.
If my advice means anything, I say to consider yourself not as someone with a disease but as a person who is one with the disorder. It will be with you your whole life; it is you. It is how you think. So yes these situations will happen again and again, accept that. It may be negative that you have this Aspergers net to fall back into when people question how you act, because you get labeled as something that a lot of people will simply avoid.
There are things people can do to treat Aspergers, though they don’t help everyone. There are dietary changes, forms of cognitive or behavioral therapy/management depending on your needs. Social concerns are the least likely for you to find a magic solution to. To beat a dead horse, you could push yourself to talk to people in any situation and with time and age you will become accustomed to it and learn to fit in better.
I hope it helps some.
PS. The quotes on your profile are great, especially the first.
Pareidolia | Feb 04, 2010
First of all, your family needs to help you. Your syndrome doesn’t just affect you, but it also affects your family, and they need to help you in living with it. Things like this affect whole families, and they need to understand that and be much more patient. I’d advise you to sit down and talk with them and ask them to understand that those sort of remarks do not help whatsoever.
My boyfriend has social anxiety, and I’ve seen him develop greatly within the past few years. Part of it has been having someone to open up to and still be 100% supportive of him, while still being able to agree that he does have flaws and help him find ways to accept or change them. He’s also had to ease himself out of his normal environment. He used to have trouble making friends, and he still does, but not nearly as badly as he used to.
A good first step to overcoming this, or at least improving upon it, is to accept yourself as you are. You may not feel comfortable in some situations while attempting to make friends, which is fine! Some people are more comfortable making friends in parties, while some freeze; those who freeze may require a more structured environment, such as a classroom or a club. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Everyone has flaws, but you ought to accept them or find a healthy way to change the behavior which causes them.
As much as it might really suck to do, you may want to try talking to a school counselor. It’s what they are there for, and they are trained to help you with these sort of things! Just remember that you are not alone in feeling this. Good luck (:
Talya | Feb 04, 2010
